Relationship basics
By Kate
Our physical relationship
Touchy/feely?
Not everyone finds it easy to be physically affectionate. Sometimes they've grown up in a family where it just didn't happen. If you feel differently about physical contact, then you need to understand and respect each other. If you want to build it up, start slowly and gently with a touch of the arm, a gentle stroke of the hair and grew in confidence with each other.
Most people need to be touched and held and hugged now and then, especially when life is tough. But there doesn't have to be a reason for it, other than to show your love. Remember it only takes seconds to kiss your partner and tell them you love them; a hug may take a little longer. Try it!
Sex?
Although the magazines and soaps would have us believe sex is just about physical pleasure, in fact it gives most satisfaction when the rest of our relationship is going well. Women usually need to feel relaxed and positive about the relationship in general, for men it may not be so important.
If you can it helps to talk about it. Don't just expect sex to happen and be good. Tell each other about what works for you. For men it's often what they see that turns them on, for women it may be what they hear. Often women need more time to relax and get in the mood, while men may respond more quickly. Recognise you are different and one of you may need a little time and gentle encouragement.