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If lusting was grounds for divorce then most people would have grounds. I suspect that if you actually asked that pastor if you could divorce your wife because she looks too long at good looking men, he would give you a firm "of course not". The sex act seals the marriage covenant, and that is what it takes to break it, sexual imorality. Yes it is up to the individual, we all have free will, but if they are following God then surely they will want to do what he advises and says. Where does it say anywhere that we can end a marriage because we dont love our spouse in the way we want to or in the way we think we should? In fact, God commands husbands to love their wives as He loves the church. That means it is a decision to love and not a feeling. Wives are told to respect their husbands and to submit to them. Do you honestly think that women always 'feel' like treating their husbands with respect and submitting to them when needed? Of course not, especially if the husband isn't acting in a way that makes them want to respect him. Its not dependant on feelings, but on how we are to treat our spouses and children. |
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It was never a good marriage and he was never really happy, BUT he had made promises to her before God and he was going to keep them. He would never have ended the marriage, but she met another man and ended it anyway after 23 years. If she hadn't done that he would still be married 9 years on. He doesn't believe in divorce, but had no choice because she divorced him. he felt very guilty after the divorce even though she had done it and not him. What I am trying to say is that if you have made promises is it ok to just break them because you dont love her 'enough'? How much do you value the promises that you made till death do us part and for better and for worse? Did you not mean what you said?. Do you feel its ok to abandon your family because you think you made a mistake? Where does commitment and responsibility come in to it? |
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However I believe that your wife doesn't want a divorce?
My husband believes that marriage is for life, and that is what he lives out. He doesn't believe that you can end a marriage just because it hasn't worked out to be what you though it would be. He believes that you make the best of what you have, thank God for the many blessings and be content with your life as it is. That you treat each other with love and respect no matter what your feelings say. He believes in keeping promises made, and that it is far more important to do what God says than to do what we want. Many Christians believe that if you end a marriage with no Biblical reason, that you cannot marry again because you are effectively still married in Gods eyes, and that if you do marry again you will be committing adultery. |
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Yet again you are going by what some priests will or wont do, and not by what the Bible says. I do know pastors who wouldn't marry all those who have been divorced. Never go by what others say but study it for yourself. God never says that we will all be happy all our lives. God never said that we will love our spouses all our lives. People could use that as an excuse to do anything. IE "I love this other person so I can leave my spouse and children, because after all God wants me to be happy" WHAT??? We will never be happy or at peace if we disobey Him. Have you considered a separation? Maybe even a legal one? Of course neither of you would be able to remarry, but then you cant Biblically anyway. This is a time of testing for you and of trusting God, and of looking to Him for more of your happiness and peace. |
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