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ralfgarnett 2nd July 2015 09:14 AM

Please pray for me
 
Dear people, please pray for me that my panic attacks and feelings of breathlessness cease and that my health returns to what it was and stays in good condition , also as I approach the first anniversary of being separated from my wife please pray that she will see the light and we can save our marriage and become husband and wife in the true sense of the word, I am so lonely, so sad, and miss her and my marriage so much, please god help me as this is my prayer.

Raymond 6th July 2015 09:24 PM

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Will pray that God answers your prayer Ralf. The scripture says He is a very present help in time of need. I have found that the key to God is through His son Jesus. I don't know why He has arranged it that way but He has. There is something about praying to the Father in the name of Jesus that moves Him.

ralfgarnett 8th July 2015 01:59 PM

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Thank you Raymond your a good kind man, god bless you.

Lindentree1 9th July 2015 01:09 AM

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Just saw this. I prayed for you, Ralf. Be well.

ralfgarnett 3rd October 2015 09:07 AM

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Dear good people, please pray once again for our marriage and for our reconciliation, I have been away from home for 1 week now and this is the longest time I have been away without her since before we met in 1995 and I have struggled at times and she has been on my mind constantly, please pray that we can come together and be that happy couple once again as we once were safe in each others arms as husband and wife should through thick and thin, richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, my flight is this afternoon please pray I get home safely, I need to find the right words to say to my wife very soon, please also pray that god shows me enlightenment and gives me a sign or tells me what I need to say to win back the heart of my wife whom I love and miss so very much, this is my prayer thank you all.

Raymond 9th October 2015 10:18 AM

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Our prayers are with you Ralf.

ralfgarnett 12th October 2015 04:54 PM

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Thank you Raymond your very kind.

constantcrab 9th August 2016 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ralfgarnett (Post 85966)
Dear people, please pray for me that my panic attacks and feelings of breathlessness cease and that my health returns to what it was and stays in good condition , also as I approach the first anniversary of being separated from my wife please pray that she will see the light and we can save our marriage and become husband and wife in the true sense of the word, I am so lonely, so sad, and miss her and my marriage so much, please god help me as this is my prayer.

I understand your feelings but don't worry too much, I know and believe that God is already fixing everything. Everything happens for a reason. He will not allow this to happen if it will not do good for you. Keep the faith Ralfgarnett and I'll include your marriage in my prayers too.

Raymond 9th August 2016 09:36 AM

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Some of the trouble is often because God only provides His help through Jesus by the Holy Spirit. If people cannot cope with Jesus then it is hard for them to receive God's help.

chosen 9th August 2016 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Raymond (Post 89265)
Some of the trouble is often because God only provides His help through Jesus by the Holy Spirit. If people cannot cope with Jesus then it is hard for them to receive God's help.

true, He will never force Himself on anyone.

ralfgarnett 9th August 2016 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by constantcrab (Post 89263)
I understand your feelings but don't worry too much, I know and believe that God is already fixing everything. Everything happens for a reason. He will not allow this to happen if it will not do good for you. Keep the faith Ralfgarnett and I'll include your marriage in my prayers too.

Thank you so very much, it is extremely kind of you.

ralfgarnett 9th August 2016 07:19 PM

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[QUOTE=Raymond;89265]Some of the trouble is often because God only provides His help through Jesus by the Holy Spirit. If people cannot cope with Jesus then it is hard for them to receive God's help.[/QUO

Hi Raymond, when you say people can't cope with Jesus, please could you tell me what do you mean ?.

Raymond 9th August 2016 09:31 PM

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What I mean Ralf is that many reject Jesus when it comes down to believing in Him and receiving eternal life. The gospel is that Jesus died was buried and rose again from the dead. All who put their faith in Him personally and receive the forgiveness that He paid for on the cross actually receive God and eternal life.

Many scriptures underline that important truth. From memory "He that believes in the Son has everlasting life and shall not pass into condemnation but has passed from death to life" Religion won't save us only Jesus can do that through simple faith in His death and resurrection. That is the door to life in God. If we don't enter in there is no other way provided.

Another scripture "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him would not perish but have everlasting life" John 3:16. All God's benefits start from there. Simple but true. Believing that He existed and believing in Him are two different things. One is the head the other is the heart and it is through the heart that man believes unto salvation.

ralfgarnett 10th August 2016 06:28 PM

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Thank you Raymond, I am involved with a new church and I will discuss this with the priest when I see him tomorrow.

Raymond 11th August 2016 11:00 AM

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Fine Ralf but it will be between you and God as there is only one mediator between man and God and that is the Lord Jesus Christ.

ralfgarnett 11th August 2016 04:11 PM

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Fine Ralf but it will be between you and God as there is only one mediator between man and God and that is the Lord Jesus Christ.

Hi Raymond, I have discussed this and other things this morning with my new priest, and he explained it much as you did so I think I get it now, thank you for taking the time to explain.

On the subject of my new church, it is a much livelier place than previous, people of all ages are involved, all sorts of things going on, and the priest himself is a very nice man younger than me and with a keen sense of humour and is very happy to have me involved, I think this could help me somewhat as I continue my on-going battle with depression, anxiety, and heartache and pain, keeping my fingers crossed, I didn't go looking for this church it kind of found me, I wandered in off the street a few weeks ago and literally took it from there.

Raymond 12th August 2016 10:12 AM

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Sounds good to me Ralf. God might have his hand on you. If they lift up the name of Jesus then it might be a good place to believe in Him and ask Him into your life. I hope and pray that you really come into that. He can be your strength as well as mine.

ralfgarnett 13th August 2016 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Raymond (Post 89281)
Sounds good to me Ralf. God might have his hand on you. If they lift up the name of Jesus then it might be a good place to believe in Him and ask Him into your life. I hope and pray that you really come into that. He can be your strength as well as mine.

Thank you Raymond, i have always had a faith and a belief, however, over the past 2 years or so i have questioned that faith, as very selfishly I have felt abandoned and ignored by god, however I can feel my faith becoming stronger again, and when I have these feelings of abandonment I always think of something that Chosen has said that was very wise, and that is that god allows us free will, and while he doesn't want us to be unhappy or for marriages to end, he has no will or power to prevent anyone from doing what they choose to do, he could neither stop my wife from leaving nor bring her back in to my life and our marriage, and when I think of this it helps me to come back down to Earth and realise that it's not my fault and I did nothing wrong, and neither could I of prevented what happened, it's a very good realisation grounding tool.

chosen 13th August 2016 07:56 PM

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Sounds positive ralf. Are you still in that awful limbo situation with your wife? Not married not divorced?

ralfgarnett 13th August 2016 08:57 PM

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Hi Chosen. yes nothing has changed one bit in any respect, still hiding her light under her bushel, no D ever mentioned ever thank god, got a great new priest though, she mailed me Thursday nice as pie asking for certain things of importance to her from the house, good luck with that after the simple things she has denied me recently over the past few years, in therapy 3 times a week now and only this week have learned a couple of things about myself that I never knew nor thought about, considered, and never acknowledged, therapy consists of 2 times general grief / talking therapy, the other a weekly anxiety support group, when will it end ?, I don't want all this, I just want a normal usual life and not to wake up every day wishing I hadn't woken up again. I keep asking god to let me keep on sleeping or to help me, but I guess he is far too busy dealing with more important things, lets face it the world is very unsettled at the moment for him to cast his eye and attention over some miserable screwed up insignificant bloke in a grotty run down Northern town.

chosen 13th August 2016 10:59 PM

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God is everywhere. He is with everyone, He isnt limited as you and I are to one place at one time.
He is very interested and concerned in every detail of our lives. I see you have a nice new church, thats a step forward on its own. Sometimes healing is gradual, mine was, and yours seems that way as well. Its good that you are geting so much support, have you had that holiday to Malta yet?


I do wonder if the fact that you are still in limbo with your marriage may not be helping, if you sit down and talk to her about the future and any plans she has, surely that would help?To know where you are would surely help you move forward. Is all her stuff still in your house?Are you going to let her have some of it?

Well you may be in an northern town, but we are now in the midlands since May when we moved here from the south. Houses between 40-50% cheaper here than where we were. No regrets at all, its a nice place we are in, and its sometimes a very positive thing to move somewhere new.

Raymond 15th August 2016 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by ralfgarnett (Post 89283)
Thank you Raymond, i have always had a faith and a belief, however, over the past 2 years or so i have questioned that faith, as very selfishly I have felt abandoned and ignored by god, however I can feel my faith becoming stronger again, and when I have these feelings of abandonment I always think of something that Chosen has said that was very wise, and that is that god allows us free will, and while he doesn't want us to be unhappy or for marriages to end, he has no will or power to prevent anyone from doing what they choose to do, he could neither stop my wife from leaving nor bring her back in to my life and our marriage, and when I think of this it helps me to come back down to Earth and realise that it's not my fault and I did nothing wrong, and neither could I of prevented what happened, it's a very good realisation grounding tool.

That's very true Ralph. We sometimes think that God can make someone do something because we pray it. That is really manipulation and doesn't work. I believe we can pray for others for good for them but they still have freewill to receive or reject it. We can pray for ourselves also for God to help us and He will even though it is not always instant.

chosen 15th August 2016 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Raymond (Post 89287)
That's very true Ralph. We sometimes think that God can make someone do something because we pray it. That is really manipulation and doesn't work. I believe we can pray for others for good for them but they still have freewill to receive or reject it. We can pray for ourselves also for God to help us and He will even though it is not always instant.

True. My husband fasted and prayed one day a week for a year to save his first marriage when they were going through a separation(which she wanted not Him). They did get back together, but not long after that she met a 3 times divorced non Christian man who she thought was 'the one' and divorced him. Well his prayer wasnt answered you may think, but it enabled him to get out of a marriage were his wife didnt love or want him any more, and into a marriage were his wife loves him loads. God will always bring good out of bad.

ralfgarnett 16th August 2016 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by chosen (Post 89286)
God is everywhere. He is with everyone, He isnt limited as you and I are to one place at one time.
He is very interested and concerned in every detail of our lives. I see you have a nice new church, thats a step forward on its own. Sometimes healing is gradual, mine was, and yours seems that way as well. Its good that you are geting so much support, have you had that holiday to Malta yet?


I do wonder if the fact that you are still in limbo with your marriage may not be helping, if you sit down and talk to her about the future and any plans she has, surely that would help?To know where you are would surely help you move forward. Is all her stuff still in your house?Are you going to let her have some of it?

Well you may be in an northern town, but we are now in the midlands since May when we moved here from the south. Houses between 40-50% cheaper here than where we were. No regrets at all, its a nice place we are in, and its sometimes a very positive thing to move somewhere new.

HI Chosen no not been over yet, might go next month for a week, but I will see how I feel, I am very delicately balanced still and don't want to upset the apple cart if avoidable.

With regards marriage, I don't know if I am in limbo, I think deep down inside I know the chances aren't great, we have never fallen out as you know, she even mailed me last week asking for a few things she needs for work, I have posted them on, I'm not harbouring any grudges or animosity towards her, how could I ?, alongside her I had the happiest, fullest, most contented and loving time of my entire life and I will be forever grateful for all that she has shared with me, I wish her no ill, and if what she is doing makes her happy then good luck to her, I wish her well.

I am in talking therapy twice a week now with 2 lovely incisive ladies who seem to get me, I am also in an anxiety support group so doing the best I can to get emotionally well but its a slog at times, but I'm no quitter and will keep on fighting to the end, last week we briefly touched on the 5 stages of grief, I still haven't one through acceptance or any tangible anger that we know of.

Yes her gear is still here, I rarely think about it these days, but now and again I will touch something, remember, and then start crying again, but all part of the process I guess.

Yes involved with a much livelier church and a younger priest, very nice chap and very caring too, I didn't find it, it found me a si literally went of wandering and walked in to somewhere I have known for decades but have never even thought about visiting, glad I did though, I think I felt gods hand on my shoulder that morning.

Glad things are working out for you in the Midlands and hope your husbands work situation is improving, as a Northerner it's definitely a step in the right geographical direction, now your North of the Watford gap we can work on Northerifying you with pints of best bitter, chips and gravy, and proper Crown Green Bowling, joking aside, I haven't totally dismissed the idea of moving myself, I just keep chickening out, better the devil you know and all that, ciao for now.

RG
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