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chosen 24th December 2010 10:28 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
leilag
If you are in the UK he can only divorce you in three ways
a) for unreasonable behaviour,
b)after a 2 year seperation if you both agree, or
c) after 5 year seperation, if only one agrees

So unless he is going to divorce you for unreasonable behaviour, he will have to wait for 2 years.
If he lives in another country then I am not sure what happens about the divorce.Maybe he does it according to the laws of where he lives.

If I were you I would live where you want to live, and wait to see what happens after time apart and the friend speaks to him.

leilag 24th December 2010 10:32 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
should i seek consul from a Muslim clergy? He is not even following the rules of his religion.

God does not like divorce and gives the wife rights. We are not allowed to get divorced with out council and he is supposed to financially support me for 3 months until the decision is filed. In the 3 months I am allowed to try to reconcile.

leilag 24th December 2010 10:34 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
he is in France. He has to get a lawyer and says that he can file on abandonment charges because I am in the UK.

I think the French law is similar he has to get a lawyer and file papers then we both have to agree. Not sure what to do, should I go to France and collect my affairs or hope for the best.

chosen 24th December 2010 10:38 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by leilag (Post 58614)
should i seek consul from a Muslim clergy? He is not even following the rules of his religion.

God does not like divorce and gives the wife rights. We are not allowed to get divorced with out council and he is supposed to financially support me for 3 months until the decision is filed. In the 3 months I am allowed to try to reconcile.

well as you are both muslims then I suppose that you should do it the way they expect you to.

chosen 24th December 2010 10:43 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by leilag (Post 58615)
he is in France. He has to get a lawyer and says that he can file on abandonment charges because I am in the UK.

I think the French law is similar he has to get a lawyer and file papers then we both have to agree. Not sure what to do, should I go to France and collect my affairs or hope for the best.

So by the sounds of it, you dont have to agree to this divorce do you?. How can he file for abandonment if you are only abroad for your job? Why not tell him, if you can, that you wont agree to it, and that you want a year or so to reflect and think. Dont let him rush you into anything. There's no hurry is there.
If he is in France can you write to him? Maybe you could write and give the letter to the friend to give him.

leilag 24th December 2010 10:47 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
good advice. We both have to be willing right? I have told him that I will not agree the night he gave me back my ring.

I think in about 2 weeks I will right him a letter and tell him I need time and ask if he will give it to me.

He needs to cool down some more.

Thanks for your advice

leilag 24th December 2010 10:50 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
do i also seek legal advice just in case? Know my rights just in case?

chosen 24th December 2010 10:52 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
yes thats a good idea, leave it 2 weeks or so, and then write down how you feel about all of this, and say that you dont want the marriage to end, and that you want a year before any divorce is started. He may not like this, but it is your marriage as well as his.
Obviously I dont know French divorce laws. Maybe you could do some research on them?
Yes it would be a good idea to get some legal advise if he is determind to end the marriage.A solicitor in the uK will know about French divorce laws. (or he can find out).
I have to go to bed now. Busy day tomorrow, Christmas day and all that. Will get back when I can.
God Bless.

Forever 24th December 2010 11:00 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
Keep in touch with us here. We will be looking for your posts. We all hope you can find something enjoyable during your stay in the states. Let us know if there are any changes.

Best Wishes Charlotte

Forever 24th December 2010 11:13 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
Charlotte,
Take your time, be careful in everything you say and do. He is angry, and needs time.

leilag 25th December 2010 10:46 AM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
Happy Holiday and thanks for all the support to be continued:p

leilag 12th March 2011 11:38 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
He won't let me enter our home now.

Forever 13th March 2011 04:28 PM

Re: I don't want to get a divorce
 
You can get an order that allows you access to your home with a police escort to gather your personal things. Other than that, one of you will have to file for divorce and during that process all property will be legally divided if you want more than just your clothes.

Has there been any communication between you? What have you been doing all this time?


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