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Dave 17th October 2011 09:40 AM

Faithfulness Matters
 
The Faithfulness Matters Campaign has been launched to ‘challenge companies who run websites which specifically encourage people who are married or in committed relationships to have affairs'.

To find out more and see how you can support the campaign, please visit http://faithfulnessmatters.net/ and register your support.


Dave

Bradmhughes 25th July 2015 01:02 PM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
Hm. I agree wholeheartedly that ‘faithfulness matters’ but it’s because of that that I can’t really agree, because I fundamentally disagree with the assumption behind the statement that ‘We do not believe anyone should make money from breaking up relationships’.

Specifically, I do not agree that any advertisement can ‘break up’ a relationship, as if the adulterer were some passive pawn of the advertister, led on to do something they would not otherwise have considered.

The whole and full responsibility for adultery lies with the adulterer. No matter the temptation, no matter how the marriage may have soured, no matter the opportunity, they can — they must — simply say, ‘No’.

I find it sad that companies like these can exist. But the adverts are not the cause of any marriages breaking up. They are a symptom of a society in which the primary purpose of sexual relationships is seen as providing happiness.

I therefore cannot support the call to close the websites. Make no mistake: I want the websites to close. But the only way that that can truly happen is to return to a society where faithfulness is assumed to be the norm.

Until that happens, there is no point in closing the websites. For every person who is unfaithful through one of these websites was unfaithful in their heart already. The websites are merely the sickness of a necrotic society, reflected back at itself.

Faithfulness matters. It matters too much to allow the responsibility for a breach of that faithfulness to be shared, passed on, or in any way diluted by implying that a website had anything to do with it. No one is unfaithful because of a website. They are unfaithful because they allow themselves to be unfaithful, and that is the whole and the end and the tragedy of it.

Raymond 27th July 2015 07:20 PM

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Not everyone is as strongminded as you Brad. Advertisers know the fickleness of people and hence the millions spent on advertising. It is true that we have to keep our own morals but it is not a bad thing to raise a banner when you know that websites are deliberately tempting married couples to go astray. There used to be laws against pornography and divorce rates were very low for instance. Now that anything goes is it a good thing that restrictions were lifted?

caralynbuehner 17th June 2016 08:47 AM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
If someone is faithful, then only it gives us courage to believe in .

David 5th September 2017 07:49 AM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
Hm. I agree wholeheartedly that ‘faithfulness matters’ but it’s because of that that I can’t really agree, because I fundamentally disagree with the assumption behind the statement that ‘We do not believe anyone should make money from breaking up relationships’.

Raymond 30th October 2017 08:54 AM

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I would disagree. I don't think anyone should make money from doing wrong things but it happens.

blendflush 1st December 2017 01:06 PM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
Being faithful and loyal is the most important thing in any relationship. It's sacred. It should be protected.

Raymond 5th December 2017 05:17 PM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
I agree. Honouring the vows made are crucial to the success of the marriage. Marriage is a very precious thing and it shouldn't be risked because of unfaithfulness.

mikyboy 2nd April 2018 12:53 PM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
my wife left me last week, we have been together 8 years and married for 4 years, yes like most we had our arguments etc, but on this day we had a argument and i looked at my wife and asked her if she was in love with me or even loved me, she did not say anything. my response was, well in that case i'm not in love with you or even love you then, she said do you want me to leave? i said its up to you, i said you may as well because if you dont love me no point in being here with me. so she packed a overnight bag and left, she said can i borrow the car? i said yes of course you can.

and now i am hurting so much and in so much pain, i feel empty and alone, i wish i never said thos words to her. i have sent her many txt messages begging her to come back and im sorry for saying what i said, and she said she is not coming back, it seem very hard to think that someone can just leave over some silly argument and some words. she still got my car. she is no not responding to my messages, i have asked for my car back and she just said she needs a few more days to sort herself out etc. she said she will be back for the rest of her things.

the Police have said if she dont bring the car back then they will arrest her and charge her with theft, i dont want that to happen to her, the officer said she is doing this to hurt you more.

i know what i said was wrong but i would never of thought she would of left me just like that. god what has happend

chosen 29th April 2018 12:29 PM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
if she is giving up over such a small thing, then it was far better that she did it now rather than once you had children. You need a lady who will stay with you though think and thin, not one who runs away at the first sign of trouble.

My advise, stop communicating at all. Go cool and stop begging. See what happens.

ethanscott 3rd May 2018 10:05 AM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Dave (Post 66007)
The Faithfulness Matters Campaign has been launched to ‘challenge companies who run websites which specifically encourage people who are married or in committed relationships to have affairs'.

To find out more and see how you can support the campaign, please visit http://faithfulnessmatters.net/ and register your support.


Dave

This is a nice initiative. Great work admin!

blendflush 15th May 2018 12:06 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by chosen (Post 89756)
if she is giving up over such a small thing, then it was far better that she did it now rather than once you had children. You need a lady who will stay with you though think and thin, not one who runs away at the first sign of trouble.

My advise, stop communicating at all. Go cool and stop begging. See what happens.

That's what I thought about it too. It's good to realize the truth early though it may hurt.

chosen 4th June 2018 11:50 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by blendflush (Post 89763)
That's what I thought about it too. It's good to realize the truth early though it may hurt.

Of course it will hurt, I feel for you.

blendflush 16th June 2018 05:56 AM

Re: Faithfulness Matters
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Raymond (Post 89699)
I agree. Honoring the vows made are crucial to the success of the marriage. Marriage is a very precious thing and it shouldn't be risked because of unfaithfulness.

You are correct with it. We made a commitment and challenges are a part of any relationship. We must stay true to that vows we made.


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