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Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 3rd June 2011, 05:43 PM
Replies: 209
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Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

I know it seems as though my husband has been unaware of the reality of the situation, but actually I have only just signed the papers as I have been waiting for my husband to sign the confession to...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 3rd June 2011, 12:15 AM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

To be honest, Forever, I'm not sure whether the reality has really sunk in for my husband yet. I sometimes think it may not until I move house and all our physical links are gone. I wonder if the...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 2nd June 2011, 02:44 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Thank you - your answers were really helpful, I had never thought about it like that Chosen, and you are right I have loved him for a long time... I do feel more anger toward the ow.
You are also...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 26th May 2011, 10:55 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

I don't understand why I can't feel angry - when I talk to my friends about this situation and what has happened, they are angry and my immediate reaction is to try and diffuse their anger as opposed...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 22nd May 2011, 07:28 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

You are right Raymond - I know the dangers of allowing bitterness to take root... I think, at the moment though it is just a part of the process of working through my sadness. I haven't yet really...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 22nd May 2011, 05:14 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi,
Yes I am still seeing my counsellor, which is a bit of a lifeline at the moment. Like you say - a safe place to work through the emotions; not something I have ever really been good at doing. It...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 19th May 2011, 10:37 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Thank you Chosen, I guess you are right - I think the shock numbed me to all this at first and I guess it will take a long time. My mum died several years ago now and yet that is still painful, so I...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 19th May 2011, 08:50 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi,
Am wondering if I am going to get through this as the moment... have hit a real down time. I feel really silly, because I know there will be difficult days, but just now every day is difficult....
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 24th April 2011, 09:03 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Thank you for your kind wishes Chamomile.

I have been contemplating the way life has changed this last 6 months and can't help but wonder at which point I am going to feel single again. I was...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 18th April 2011, 08:51 PM
Replies: 55
Views: 10,623
Posted By Heather
Re: Help

Hunny - my heart goes out to you in all of this. So much of what you say has echoed in my ears over the last 12 months.

Firstly, you are not alone... in your situation or in the way you feel. so...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 18th April 2011, 08:19 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

I know you are both right - I just need to give things time, and in all honesty, most of the time I am fine - his being with her is all the vindication I need for making the decision I did. It shows...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 14th April 2011, 04:16 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Just feeling a touch bitter at the moment... he took her away to our caravan on my birthday and he is now away with her the weekend of our last wedding anniversary! He doesn't know that I am aware...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 13th April 2011, 06:10 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Oh, I absolutely agree - I know that he is still seeing the OW, and I accept that. Now my decision is made it is time for us both to move on... I would not wish him to be unhappy - I do not intend to...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 3rd April 2011, 01:54 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi, You are so right, Forever, one day everything is fine, the next I am a mess. Had a series of texts from my husband this week about how he wishes we weren't doing this and that I am washing 20...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 31st March 2011, 11:33 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi,
Just thought you might like an update - I have actually managed to find enough strength in me, through couselling to come to a decision and tkae that final step. I have managed to tell my...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 15th February 2011, 02:04 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi, hope you are all ok - sorry about the long silence, I have ahd a lot to think about over the past weeks. Strange how I went to counselling for my current problems and have ended up looking a lot...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 17th January 2011, 06:40 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi
The counselling session was a good introduction and I feel now that I know what it is I hope to achieve by going - rather than a vague sort of 'help!' I will be going again this Thursday to...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 12th January 2011, 06:08 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Chosen, 1aokgal, you need to know that I appreciate both of you for your contributions to this thread. Over the weeks you have both helped me - whether through sympathy and support when I need it or...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 6th January 2011, 10:10 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi
My husband has worked away since the children were about 6 and 8 respectively and before that he worked very long hours. When we first found out about the genetic problem and my mum died my...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 5th January 2011, 10:33 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Thanks for your kind words, Forever. Have just had an email from my husband explaining the receipt that I was suspicious of. He had been chosen to buy it as a leaving gift for a work colleague. He...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 5th January 2011, 09:55 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi
I don't know what your day job is Forever, but you seem very insightful here. You are right in that I am lost... some days I know that this was not my fault, in that even if someone is unhappy...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 4th January 2011, 09:19 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

It is amazing that I wasn't suspicious isn't it... as I said I was always very trusting. My husband works away a lot anyway so he was away most of the week. At weekends he maintained he was tired,...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 4th January 2011, 07:49 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

All those questions you ask, Forever, are questions I am asking myself... I have arranged to go and see a cousellor because in all of this I have lost myself somewhere. I did reach a point a few...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 3rd January 2011, 09:45 AM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Have asked my husband whether he has been in touch with the OW since his chat with her - he replied.. only to say Happy Christmas and New Year to each other...
I asked how come she was feeling that...
Forum: Coffee Shop Chat 29th December 2010, 05:19 PM
Replies: 209
Views: 62,543
Posted By Heather
Re: How do I take the final step?

Hi, hope you all had good christmases!

Mine was a bit strange as you can imagine. The kids were home, which was great and my husband was home for Christmas day, then he decided to go and see his...
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