Originally Posted by chosen

Unless there is a good reason such as serious abuse or an affair, then I dont believe that anyone should throw away their spouse and children like yesterdays rubbish. You are the one who cheated and you are the one who wants to leave the marriage, so why should she have to leave her own children and home? She hasnt done anything to deserve this, and she wants to stay in the marriage despite your betrayal which is amazing of her actually. Does she think the affair has stopped?

What was the point in you marrying her for better or for worse till death do you part if you are going to run off with another woman after only 6 years? Marriage takes effort and work and commitment, and once you have children that is even more important. I was just reading a report the other day about the devastating long term effect that a divorce has on children. Will you put yourself above your children??? They need to you both to be there for them full time, and they need you to be with their mum.