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Old 30th March 2009, 08:54 PM   #3
Raymond
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Re: Please somebody help me

AG may have some good points there which are worth considering.

I don't think the answer is just to leave her. You would be creating much worse problems.

On a practical level you need to let her have an allowance and stick to it. If she overspends you shouldn't just dole out more. She is trying her best but maybe she needs some of your discipline and control regarding it. You have to make sure the children do not suffer in this though.

I take it she is getting enough to meet all the needs for the house and the children and that you are not being stingy. Maybe she has never learned to be frugal with money and has to learn it? Obviously you cannot have a joint account any more but she should have enough. Sometimes it is the man who wastes money but in your case you really need to handle the finances until she learns, but leaving her is certainly not the answer. That would just be a cop out.

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