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Originally Posted by Cpjunk31
Well sports for me is huge, I grew up playing, played all thru highschool and college and still play today... I'm not saying that she needs to be a triathlon athlete, but when there is no attempt to get involved, that's a problem... When my kids and I are downstairs watching the game and she's upstairs not participating, that's a problem... It's mostly about the quality time that she complelty said "no" in a span of 12 years...
it really doesn't help that the OW is not only into sports but plays sports as well...
What happened to the initial love affair you ask? I hit a wall where I'm am tired... It's doesn't excuse an affair... But that's what happened...
We have two differnt outlooks on finances and that's fine... I'm more of a pull your weight person... It doesn't have to be exactly what I make, but we should be able to build together as a couple with both of us contributing... And I do contribute to household duties and raising the kids...
But again, all the comments are really helping and I really appreciate your comment.
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Loads of woman especially dont like sport. I used to love it and would watch it whenever I could in my teens and 20's, and now I never do, its doesnt interest me in the least. Why cant you accept her as she is and the fact that she has other interests? All couples have differences, and the fact that this other lady likes it should make no difference. You are not free to be with her, you are a married man with children. What sort of women is she who is happy to cheat with a married man with young children anyway? Where is her integrity? Where is her decency?I cant have any respect for a women who would do that.
My husband and I see the marriage as equal no matter who earns what. All of our money is ours and not his or mine. When the children are young its good if the mother looks after them if you can afford it, and her job is equally important albeit unpaid.
I am rather concerned that your wife think the affair has stopped when it hasnt. If I were you I would begin to job search now so that you can make that clean break from her and put 100% into your marriage. Book some marriage counselling for you both to attend as well. You would also need to apologise to the OW for chasing her when you weren't free to do so, although she should have rejected you anyway.