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Old 2nd December 2014, 11:22 AM   #16
Raymond
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Re: Leave or stay? Been wrestling for a while now...

Taking sports as a seperate issue (one thing at a time) I think you are making too much of it and being blinded as to the true issues of life. You are somehow making an idol of it which is causing you to control your wife and go with someone who you might think worships the same idol. Sports is a helpful thing and helps us to keep fit and also supplies a recreational need but it is an imbalance to give it priority beyond it's worth. You could say that it is a good servant but a bad master. Your wife could bring balance in this instead of you trying to control her. It might actually be an asset to the marriage to allow her to stand back a little from it. I would imagine she feels controlled and it is essential to have freewill in relationship which should actually be the priority which I feel you have been blinded to.

Judging our partners is not the way to keep a happy marriage. We all have faults. Judging them creates walls which puts solutions beyond reach.
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