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Old 28th April 2016, 09:35 AM   #11
Raymond
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Re: Husband watches porn

If you cannot trust your husband Ann because he is untrustable in this area that is serious. If you couldn't trust him to put the rubbish out for instance then that is no big deal and not a marriage breaker. This is different and will affect a marriage in a big way as sex is part of intimacy and should only be between you and your husband. Looking at pornography goes right against this and is a kind of mental adultery because of the nature of it.

To say it is like a drug is like saying it is addictive but it will only become addictive by reason of use and until that time there is choice. Even if it has reached the addictive state there is still a choice, but it will be much harder to free himself from it and he has to want it for all he is worth.

The biggest problem is that he doesn't seem to see it. Either it has got hold of him and he doesn't want to give it up or he doesn't see that it is being unfaithful. I think you have done the right thing so far. It has to be them or you and without that stark choice is he ever going to be alerted as to what is happening? I just hope and pray that because of your actions he will begin to see what is happening in his marriage because of this stuff and do something to bring healing to his marriage.
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