[typhoon]

Hi, my wife and I have been married for 23 years and about 5 years ago she had, in her words, a fling. I was shocked and very unhappy at first but now we are pretty close and that relationship is behind us.

The problem is that we now have a brother/sister relationship and she has told me, in no uncertain terms, that she does not want me pysically.. at all. We have not made love for 4 years and we never touch, kiss or hug... nothing. We have 2 lovely kids, 15 & 12, and live together very well. I think she loves me in her own way but I have my needs and desires and I still find her very attractive sexually.

I really don't know that I can continue in this way for much longer, no matter how much i love her. I have been tempted by other women but, so far, have remained faithful, as I believe, has she.

Is there any counselling or course of action I could suggest to her? Or has anyone else experienced a similar situation and maybe can offer some advice?

I do not want to leave her but I do want to have a proper marriage again.

thanks