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I think there is a lot of hope for you both sunny. I admire you for not allowing the relationship with the OW to progress into anything physical. So many today would have just let that happen, regardless of children, so you clearly have good morals and are a caring father.

Your wife clearly feels much better emotionally and is making a real effort in the marriage. Having a wife who really loves you unconditionally and passionately is a thing that many people never have, so that alone is a blessing even if at this time you don't feel the same. You did have many difficult years so give it time.

I am glad that talking about it has helped. It can be very therapeutic to do that, and also to know that some else cares.