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Originally Posted by chosen
What you had (or though you had) with the OW, wasn't real life. The attraction that you felt was intense because it was new and exciting and forbidden. That too would have died down, and once it did, the day to day living/working/sleeping etc would have been far more routine. You remember it with such powerful feelings, because it never got past that initial attraction phase and into real every day life, so you can make it what you want it to be in you mind.
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Chosen, I totally feel the same.
Married men longing for something he's not getting from his marriage, constantly regretting he had married her by MISTAKE - it seems this is one of the most common themes over this site...
There are two types of married men: Men who try to find happiness within marriage and he loves his wife (emotional attachment) despite personal issues and problems life throws at them.
Another type of men who constantly unhappy with his wife and he longs for all consuming romantic love (perhaps) with someone else (someone new) he feels able to open up. He is detached from his wife emotionally but carries on having "obligation sex" to keep her happy.
Sunny, have you considered a trial separation? That would be one way of finding out if you
really do not love your wife anymore? I wonder what age range you are? Does getting older worry you?
If you never loved your wife from the start but married her out of obligation or by mistake, then that's probably the likely reason of your current dissatisfaction. There was no love to begin with then, as years go on, it gets harder and harder.
Having said that even if you met someone else you "truly" adore, the initial intense feeling of love DOES NOT LAST FOREVER. Any relationship/marriage demands work..and then you would be back to the same/similar situation.