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Old 22nd September 2012, 06:12 PM   #11
1aokgal
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Re: Hope Springs

Hi Chosen..

The shift to long time marriages ending is pretty shocking. Maybe that fact is because we live longer, healthier lives and people have become more selfish and less giving in relationships. If your marriage is good with your blended families and such history, it is because you work at it. You both appreciate life because of what you went through in the past. You choose to make it work and share mutual values.

I think it is sad so many older couples will just call it quits, when loving another is a lot about choice. The truth is the quality of life for couples in their 50's who divorce is much less than what they find to remain together. Financially, for both, there is a radical drop in the standard of living. Health statistics show married people tend to reflect better health, then singles, after middle age. Some marriages are also affected with widely dispersed family members so there is likely less support networks available today. That is a modern dilemmma as familes traditionally stayed in close proximity, but the labor market now requires many to leave the home area. There is a lot of stress on modern families.

The econemy has taken a huge toll on many couples and unemployment means the family unit struggles to maintain middle class standards of living. That stress means many struggle with conflicts on the handling of finances. In the US the dream of home ownership is lost to most families.
Hard work and lowered expectations is part of life. It is no wonder so many couples try and fail when they can't adapt and redefine their goals.

Last edited by 1aokgal; 22nd September 2012 at 09:18 PM.
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