Thanks for the replies.
Chosen, I don't think he looks at porn excessively. He never did before and his computer habits haven't changed. However, I haven't gone all out stalker wife and tried to monitor his computer activity, so it's always a possibility. I did basically point blank ask him if he'd been using porn when I brought up the sex issue and he said he rarely even masturbates at all
It's just so strange that he would go from being sexual to not being sexual. I don't know if he's depressed? I know he did say he feels lonely out here because all of his family and friends are back home and he doesn't like his new job out here. He's trying to find a different one but hasn't had much luck yet. I try to do fun things with him obviously but I'm sure I'm no substitute for his guy buddies.
I agree counseling could help, I'm just not sure what kind. I brought up marriage counseling when we first moved in together because we were arguing quite a bit but he was very against it because he thought it was ridiculous that we just got married and already needed counseling.
I personally think it would be more ridiculous to get a divorce because we didn't try anything, but that's just me. However, I haven't brought this up recently to him, so as far as he knows I've either gotten used to it or given up. I also have never used the "D" word around him because I feel it's bad to just throw it around. I don't want to just give up on us, but I'm at a loss of what to do if he won't communicate with me or try counseling. I just have to figure out how to either get him to open up or at least get him to agree to some counseling.
I just hope counseling will help, if he agrees to it. I'm not sure if he'll be thrilled to talk to a stranger about our sex life, though. Bleh. I wish he would just tell me what was going on!