[Raymond]

It is possible he didn't know you enough before you married. Maybe he wanted a stable family with children and now he feels it is different from what he wanted. Just a thought. I don't see any reason why it cannot be a good marriage if things are worked through. He may be marriage material but maybe postponement of children and you being sexually abused threw him. You were right to tell him about that. I have been sexually abused myself as it happens. He may not be mature enough to accept things as they are and might need encouragement concerning children and that things can work even if you have been sexually abused.

With regard to sex the relationship is more important than sex. Out of good relationship comes true sexual intimacy. Sex has to be relevant to who you are eventually and not just something you do.