1aokgal

Hi Baroness...

It is a sad fact that one can beat the head against a brick wall only so many times before we pack up our kid marbles and say,"OK, I got the picture." When one person reaches out and the other draws away or makes excuses that goes on eternally, a person learns that it isn't worthwhile to keep putting forth the effort. That is a sexless relationship or marriage and it is hurtful and sad. When two people share a space and there is a world apart there is little warmth and while there is no hostility, there is no warm fuzzy comfortable feeling either. Who wants to be old before their time?

Maybe he is flawed in thinking. Maybe he is assexual, and maybe he has gone past the time when that is a drive he cares about. When one longs to reach out and be intimate, share laughter and nice moments, and the other doesn't, it is understandable that at some point, that man no longer looks that good. It is like eating gumdrops. You may not like gumdrops, but if they were put off limits, and you never had another, you miss the red and yellow ones. You miss the times when it felt comfortable to just bask in the warmth of the moment with the man you care about. Time passes and it is sad to feel very alone.

I know exactly how you feel.