Thread: Marriage Help
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Old 10th September 2012, 12:49 AM   #3
Forever
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Re: Marriage Help

Hi Nina,
In addition to the other issues...is the fact that he cheated...are you okay with that adultery or are these other issues more important to you? Where is he from, and do you get along with his parents? Are you living in base quarters or in off base housing? If you are living in base housing...there are certainly things you could do about the intrusion in your life...but that would probably end the marriage if you tried. The advise given above regarding his parents is probably your best bet to prevent hostility and making his parents feel uncomfortable...unless they were aware of the fact that you were not consulted prior to their moving in...which would mean that they have no respect for you as a human being trying to raise children w/o interference.

This is just as rude as can be...not to mention that his cheating without paying consequences will likely continue since there is nothing to stop him...not even his own conscience..so you will need to make multiple appointments at the OBGYN to see if he infects you with something along the way.

Sometimes if you marry a man who is from a different culture, they seem to think that all the "rules" apply only to the wife rather than to themselves. This desperately needs to change, and of course, if he refuses counseling...you are the one who will have to take a stand and follow it all the way through...or else, "put up and shut up" as it were. His being in the military has NOTHING to do with this...but lucky you, his CO can be of more help than you think...even with the immorality issues...they can order him into counseling. I was active duty military also in the past, so unless things have changed dramatically since those days, you will need to get help from a Chaplain as well as the CO if things do not change to your liking.

Kindest Regards

Last edited by Forever; 10th September 2012 at 01:08 AM.
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