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Old 9th January 2013, 09:35 AM   #15
Raymond
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Re: My wife had an 18 month affair

I can fully see your point Snowmike in that she was untrustworthy. At the same time however I can see how that a bugging device in her bedroom would really rile her.

Basically the trust has been lost but you can only go so far with listening devices if you are trying to restore your marriage.

Really it is for her to restore your trust in her. If she won't do this one has to really question if she is even interested in the survival of the marriage. Trying to make up to her too much might also be counter productive I feel as you could be in danger of being a doormat if she doesn't really care.

It might be a case of plugging the reason why she had the affair in the first place if there was a genuine reason although nothing ever justifies an affair.
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