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Old 2nd July 2004, 10:16 AM   #3
Liz
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Re: masturbation, porn and marriage

I don't know what your husband means by normal. Men do enjoy seeing pretty women, not necessarily without clothes on. I don't think porn helps a marriage. It should be enough for both partners to enjoy each other. To me it's about fidelity - if my man wants to look at other women naked or having sex then it means he's not being faithful to me and it would hurt. The other trouble is that some men get addicted and looking at other women in this way blunts their response to their wife's advances.

Masturbation is a more tricky area. Men do get to the point where they have strong physical needs. This can be difficult for them to deal with if their wife is away or not well.

I think it depends on how you see sex. Is it about giving pleasure to your husband or wife or is it about getting pleasure or physical relief?

If you are worried about the porn issues there are some resources here.

In the end the important thing is that you both show respect and love for each other and stand by the vows and commitments you make to each other when you marry.


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