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Maxine...

I am so sorry to hear what problems and tragedy has happened with your neice. When my daughter was young she had a friend whose father was diagnosed with the terrible disease. That is indeed a death sentence and a horror for any sufferer. He did not want his family and daughter to be devastated with his med bills after he could not work and took his own life.

The elderly grandparents raised the girl. I ran into her a few months ago. She is a beautiful young woman with her own children. It was a burden for those grandparents and that granddmother was the mother all those years. They rose to the occasion and gave her the best.

Have you considered to help with the raising of a child or two in this situation? I have a friend who raised her sisters' baby as her own when the sister died in childbirth. That girl has been fortunate to have a loving successful woman who never married, raise her and give her everything she could desire. Now she she is a doting grandmother to her kids. Such a situation can bring out the most selfless love in relatives who step forward and take care of these children.

It seems that 89 is too old and likely beyond her strength to raise those children. It would be terrible if the children ended up in state care or foster care. I will have her on my thoughts and for you too, Maxine, that you will look into your own situation and see if this is an opportunity to be a heroine to these children in their time of need.