This is a very interesting thread whilst obviously it is an old one which does not need any further attention.
I'm curious as to how things had progressed since this lady had posted her OP.
Apparently there are different kinds of intelligence, not just one type you can measure by IQ testing. It must be harder if someone was previously married to a very efficient spouse who can fix things and you know when the same quality may not be present in a new man. I sincerely hope this lady worked things out in the end.
