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chosen · 15th August 2015, 02:08 AM

I dont agree that its mean at all for a spouse who has been rejected, lied to and cheated on to leave a marriage. In fact being cheated on is one of the very few reasons I would leave a marriage. The other being any sort of bad abuse against me or any children.

However its early days, if you feel that you would have her back and could trust her again, why not wait a while, but I am someone who wouldnt accept being second best if another relationship didnt work out. I would want that person to be with me out of their own choice, not because something else didnt work and they had no where else to go.

If she does ever want to come back, I would suggest that you make some conditions for her to do so, you wont want to appear a door mat who can be thrown away at the drop of a hat and picked up again as and when she wants to.

15th August 2015, 02:08 AM	#15
chosen Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 5,794	Re: And yet another "I love you but not in love with you" story I dont agree that its mean at all for a spouse who has been rejected, lied to and cheated on to leave a marriage. In fact being cheated on is one of the very few reasons I would leave a marriage. The other being any sort of bad abuse against me or any children. However its early days, if you feel that you would have her back and could trust her again, why not wait a while, but I am someone who wouldnt accept being second best if another relationship didnt work out. I would want that person to be with me out of their own choice, not because something else didnt work and they had no where else to go. If she does ever want to come back, I would suggest that you make some conditions for her to do so, you wont want to appear a door mat who can be thrown away at the drop of a hat and picked up again as and when she wants to.