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Old 9th December 2014, 11:40 PM   #8
bobg01
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Re: Feeling Alone And Confused in My Marriage

What I have decided to do is make a last ditch effort at trying to get my wife to change through positive reinforcement. We had the talk and I pretty much told her exactly how I feel, so she doesn't need to be reminded of it frequently. I decided that when she is not doing things to improve our marriage and/or improve herself, I will not say anything-negative or positive. But when she takes positive steps, even little ones, I make it known how much I appreciate her an encourage her efforts. For example, if I come home from work tonight and she's wearing her ratty old sweat pants and looks as if she hasn't showered in days, it will simply be "How was your day honey?", but if she's showered, dressed, and dinner is on the table, I will be sure to tell her that she is as beautiful as the day we met. I figure you can't build someone up by tearing them down. I am hoping that the positive reinforcement will encourage her to continue with positive actions.
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