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Old 13th October 2011, 05:21 PM   #30
Chamomile
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Re: Wife wants "space" and is moving out

Hi

So, from what I read, she didn't trust you enough to take you to see a Cardiologist? Maybe, she was afraid of being judged or being perceived negatively by you, who is obviously far more outgoing and physically fitter than her?

I really don't know. If she's capable of holding down a full-time employment as an executive, then she may not be so ill at the moment. People with a pacemaker can lead a normal life so long as they avoid certain situations. If she has some kind of congenital disorder with which this cardiac issue may be associated then she may have had other issues going on as well. Who knows? Going to bed at 9pm every night sounds more like she's severely depressed and so withdrawn.

Maybe, as 1aokgal suggests, this whole baby business you went mad for, your w wasn't that keen but you didn't quite pick up on and she went along initially and when she expressed how she wanted to be part of your plans e.g. adoption, her wishes were flatly denied and in the end, she decided to move on when things were always on your terms (rarely hers) and she felt that she has very little say in anything. In hindsight, you could have been a little more accommodating..

At least, you are visiting your therapist right now and you love this child dearly, perhaps far more than anybody else on earth. Your life needs to go on and we all learn from mistakes we make sometimes.

All the Best to you,
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