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Raymond · 3rd December 2014, 09:56 AM

It is a difficult problem you have. You have to make a dividing line between encouraging the little she does do in the hope that it will grow and not feeding her the negative which she says is you nagging. One thing is sure encouragement in love will be a very positive thing you can do in a difficult situation.

I agree with Chosen in that she is a bit manipulative and you must never allow yourself to be manipulated, otherwise you might find yourself enabling her wrong behaviour which won't help her or you. In that sense you have to keep your boundaries so that you are not dragged down.

I think it is good that you have outside interests to offset your situation at home. You need that I think. Meanwhile I would say find genuine ways to encourage her as opposed nagging or even flattery.

3rd December 2014, 09:56 AM	#6
Raymond Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,409	Re: Feeling Alone And Confused in My Marriage It is a difficult problem you have. You have to make a dividing line between encouraging the little she does do in the hope that it will grow and not feeding her the negative which she says is you nagging. One thing is sure encouragement in love will be a very positive thing you can do in a difficult situation. I agree with Chosen in that she is a bit manipulative and you must never allow yourself to be manipulated, otherwise you might find yourself enabling her wrong behaviour which won't help her or you. In that sense you have to keep your boundaries so that you are not dragged down. I think it is good that you have outside interests to offset your situation at home. You need that I think. Meanwhile I would say find genuine ways to encourage her as opposed nagging or even flattery.