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Old 12th September 2002, 09:24 AM   #1
msp2911
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Unhappy pray for our marriage

Dear friends,
My husband and I are having problems. We have been married for almost 25 years. Since March of this year, we have been living separately. We have three children 12 17 and 22. I knew my husband and I were having difficulty communicating, but I never suspected that he was involved with his girlfriend from high school. Since March, he has been seeing this woman regularly and has refused to try to work out our marriage. Both my husband and I are seeing counselors. I wish he would give our marriage another chance, but he doesn't think he can come home. I have tried (to no avail) to encourage him to deal with the loss of feelings for me, but he just can't deal with giving up his relationship with his girlfriend. I have been praying for God to help me in my time of need, but things haven't changed. Some days I think they are getting worse. Our children are so upset with their dad and his parents are at their wits end. I see my family being pulled apart little by little and am at a loss as to how to turn things around. Of course I would like to things to change immediately and this doesn't help. I have trouble being patient. How do I get my husband to quit avoiding his feelings for me. I know he still loves me. I know God does not want our marriage to fall apart.
I should tell you, the other woman is also in the process of divorcing her husband. They were having troubles in their own marriage when she made contact with my husband. At this time her divorce is not final. Before she came back into his life, my husband was an honest, trustworthy man. Now, he lies to me and to his children often. I am losing the ability to trust him and know that if I do, there is no way our marriage can survive. Our friends have also seen a change in him. I feel at such a loss. I love my husband and do not want a divorce. I have been in contact with an attorney, but I couldn't go through with filing for a divorce. My faith tells me I married for life not just for the good times. I feel like such a failure to my children and myself. Both of us need help and I have suggested and nagged him to death to go to couples counseling to determine if there is anything to be saved. Please help>
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