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Old 7th January 2013, 10:38 AM   #4
Raymond
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Re: My wife had an 18 month affair

I think she is grieving for the relationship and cannot suddenly switch off and rebuild the marriage. However she has cut off the relationship so there is a bit of honour there. I think you did well to insist she break it off as a marriage cannot thrive in that situation. You will have to see what happens when she has got over this long term affair. She probably justified it on the basis of your lack of attention.

I think it is too early to say the marriage is finished. She seems to be giving it some kind of go but needs grieving time for it, not to mention her mothers illness. You need all the wisdom you can get at this time. If she contacts him again then I don't see much hope.
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