Re: Contact or No Contact...help!
I can honestly swear on my kids lives I never abused her physically, emotionally or financially. But it was all the little things that I think built up. I was horrible to her. She would say 'one day Me and the kids won't be here when u get home' and my arrogant horrible response would be 'well go pack ur bags now then if your not happy'.
She also didnt like how I left her at parties/evenings out. In the early stages we would go out as a couple and go home as a couple but then occasionally I'd get hammered and say come on let's go and she'd say no I'm staying so I left without her. Then before I knew it I was leaving without even asking her, leaving her to defend for herself. All these little things I think just grew to the point of her saying u know what I'm not doing this anymore.
As well as my FT job I am a PT firefighter. So I'd come home at 6 be free for an hour then go 'on call' from 7pm till 6am which she prob felt restricted I know it did and have since changed my hours.
Upto the point of me leaving she was always on her iPhone scanning FB Twitter etc etc. the kids are 3, 8 & 12.
She is a lovely person and hates conflict. I trust her completely and she hasn't given me any reason to believe there is anyone else involved. I have asked her out right and her family have asked her and she swears there is no one she has just hardened up to my love. But understand this if I found out there was someone else I'd move back in the house like a flash.
Thanks. It helps to talk/write as they say!
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