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Old 6th October 2016, 07:25 PM   #862
OCGirl
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Re: Husband doesn't want sex

There is a lot to read in this thread, but I have a question I have on which I would like to get some Christian feedback/perspective.
It seems it's generally understood among believers that the only "legitimate" reason for divorce is "marital unfaithfulness/adultery" on the part of your spouse. The Bible provides specific guidance, not commands, for sex within marriage in 1 Corinthians 7:3-6:
3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
If, as it has been discussed in this thread, a husband is not fulfilling his wife's expressed sexual needs (assuming she is not requesting something inappropriate or unreasonable), does this become a form of "marital unfaithfulness?" Can a wife be justified, in the eyes of God, for divorcing her husband who is unwilling to meet her sexual needs? I am approaching my two-year wedding anniversary, and my husband has not been interested in sex since we got married (we were only intimate on our wedding night on our honeymoon), due to enormous stress and pressure at work. As it stands right now, I have been forced to be celibate for the last 6 months with no end in sight, despite my openness with him about how I'm affected by his lack of interest in intimacy with me.
I love my husband and do not want to divorce, but I also don't see how this is going to last with his unwillingness to engage in sex with me. He also tends to be quite critical, which started a month after we got married, and he is not generally pleased with anything. And in case it comes up, I'm attractive, slim, kind and respectful toward him so his lack of interest is not a result of a problem on my end. Also, he is not looking at porn or having an affair. His sex drive is non-existent due to stress and age (he is in his mid 50's, I am in my early 40's). I would love some feedback - would it be justified, in the eyes of God, to divorce a spouse for withholding sexual intimacy?
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