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Old 4th May 2006, 11:19 PM   #9
Lovey
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Re: today

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Originally Posted by helenrw200
Lovey

I wish you were my therapist !

Helen
Thanks Helen. I appreciate that.

Amanda, I've read your posts as well and noticed similarities between your H and Helen's partner. I am somewhere in the middle.

Amanda, keep really busy Tuesdays and Thursdays. I'd advise going out on your own with friends on those nights if you can, or letting him know exactly how you feel when he goes out these nights. To me, he shouldn't be going to darts because of that. It makes me crazy that these guys lie and cover things up.

I agree with you both. It doesn't matter how much sex you have. My H and I had sex twice a day, sometimes more and he was still at the computer masturbating to porn. He told me that he'd done it twice a day every day, before he met me. Talk about obsessed! Now, all I need is once a day, sometimes twice is good as well but not needed. We're still very active but I do find those times when I just can't and won't and don't want him. I find it difficult to make out with him, because it's so intimate to me. This hurts him, so I tell him that if he wants to stop feeling that hurt, he needs to make me happy as well. It's a two way street.

(A tip! Be careful with the gym, Amanda. Let your body have two days off a week. I really hurt myself with my trainer once because I was in the gym for hours every day!)

Even though it's my decision to stay and try again, sometimes I detest that I have to sit back and wait for the other shoe to drop- again.
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