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Old 8th July 2011, 10:23 AM   #5
Chamomile
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Re: Engagement weirdness: Help please

Hi

I would say, welcome to our club lol If you sensed something fishy going on, probably, there is something going on (usually). Once you are involved with someone else (besides yourself), whatever you want to achieve is also dependent on someone else which you have no control of. That's the difficulty of any relationship. You think about A and he wants C, for example.

He may well have a control issue and a few other issues; he doesn't say what he's thinking etc etc when a communication is needed. If you think he did something which makes you very angry at this stage (so called, a "honeymoon" stage), probably this man won't be good enough for you? Is he really in love with you? It's not a good sign?

1aokgal could well be right. You need to be careful. Men can separate love and sex whilst females are quickly catching up in this department they say. More than a few men (I don't have any quantified number) would go for a companionship/sex even when he does not necessarily think you are the "one". (you are "the one for the next 6 months" for example). Men generally don't like to be alone and if he lives with a gf, it helps him avoid hunting down for sex, so while he's waiting for the one, he's happily in a relationship for the time being. But his gf has something else in mind etc etc.

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