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Old 28th August 2011, 05:06 PM   #46
1aokgal
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Re: Married and lonely

I wonder what part the profession has to do with some of the problems. There seems a relaxed moral position in some cases because of the traumatic nature of problems these people handle. Being on the scene with murders, suicides, prostitutes and crime is a lot of street material for a person to handle emotionally in their own lives.

We have two policeman in my family, including my daughter. I hate to think of some scenes she has seen first hand. There has to be some emotional space that protects the psyches of first reponders who get exposed to terrible things.
I know divorce is very high in this profession as maybe they become emotionally frozen.

If there is counselling available and he would go, that might give you some answers as to whether this marriage can be saved. People in this profession are trained to insulate their emotions. The porn issue with a man can destroy normal intimacy and builds a wall of secrecy. We just begin to understand how devastating this can be to marriages. There is software that can track a computer and the sites visited from an internet place. Do you think there might be someone else?


I hope you have strong family network during this time.

Last edited by 1aokgal; 28th August 2011 at 05:18 PM.
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