[birdit]

Thanks everyone. We had counselling last night and it was awful. He basically said that his heart's not in it anymore and that he can't over how I have behaved. He refused to acknowledge that there are clearly underlying issues that need to be dealt with. He even said that because my sisterinlaw said my brother behaves badly, that means it runs in my family and there is therefore no hope! Counsellor said we have two choices - walk away or agree a 6-8 week period of compromise, meeting up, talking and counselling. He wouldn't give an answer saying he wanted to sleep on it but he said his hearts not in it and it would be a waste of everyone's time. So divorce couts it is. I cannot believe it - he admitted he missed me and is very upset, and hurt, so I can't udnestand why he wouldn't want to make the effort to try to sort things out. It feels like he is giving up too easily and too quickly. Not sure how I'm going to face the future. I wish I was dead, I feel empty without him.