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Raymond · 16th March 2016, 10:26 PM

She certainly seems to be interfering in your marriage. Either it is some form of subtle control over your husband or she has a deep need and needs to please for her own sense of meaning.

However help has to be given where needed and not to meet the needs of the giver. I think she needs to be told this gently putting over the points clearly that you have described. If the response is anger then you know it is control although a response of poor old me can still be control in a different way. I think it ought to be done gently with the aim of getting the relationship on the right footing, one on more of an honest footing and not one where you are putting up with it because of a fear of offending. Your marriage is your marriage and not hers as your family is it's own entity. Faithful are the wounds of a friend if it is done in love and honesty.

16th March 2016, 10:26 PM	#2
Raymond Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,409	Re: Mother in law crossing boundaries- Help needed She certainly seems to be interfering in your marriage. Either it is some form of subtle control over your husband or she has a deep need and needs to please for her own sense of meaning. However help has to be given where needed and not to meet the needs of the giver. I think she needs to be told this gently putting over the points clearly that you have described. If the response is anger then you know it is control although a response of poor old me can still be control in a different way. I think it ought to be done gently with the aim of getting the relationship on the right footing, one on more of an honest footing and not one where you are putting up with it because of a fear of offending. Your marriage is your marriage and not hers as your family is it's own entity. Faithful are the wounds of a friend if it is done in love and honesty.