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Old 13th January 2014, 08:08 PM   #202
Raymond
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Re: I don't love my wife and never have...

Everybody has faults Hobson. Without exception. It really depends what the faults are. If they recognise them and are trying to change all well and good. There are certain things one can take and certain things one cannot, depending on the person. Love is blind they say but they talk about Eros really. Yes one will need a different kind of enduring love afterwards. More noble I would say, not to take away from the sexual relationship which should remain fiery. I was fortunate in knowing my wife over many years in the church and knew that character wise she was exemplary, but I wasn't ready for the faults displayed after marriage. But we work together well and have brought two wonderful boys up together..

It appears that you leave room for her repentance from her racy past. Only you can know if it is genuine. I think it hinges on this more than anything. Sexual morality is more important than most people realise when you are talking about a commitment to marriage.
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