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Old 3rd September 2011, 08:19 PM   #69
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Re: Married and lonely

Hmmm....
I dont know if this will help you Shasha, but I was married twenty years to a policeman. He was very much like your husband is, including the porn which he had started in his early teens. I knew about it, but never understood the impact it could have in a man's heart...I was only 18. The result of this, is that while handling his work in a professional and detached manner, he also handled his marriage the same way. Being young, I did not know that there was something amiss...I had nothing to compare our marriage to since he was mostly uncommunicative and I was busy raising children and running a home fit for a King.

He left when he decided that there was so much more "out there" to be had besides the wife and four children that were his.

His porn, (magazines at the time since there was no internet), taught him to fantasize and that he had set his standards too low when he hooked up with the likes of me. Add to that my faith in God and being an outgoing person with considerable drive and intelligence, he felt threatened (though I did not know it at the time).

My advice to you would be to be kind, civil, and continue to follow the Biblical guidelines for proper behavior given to Christian wives....in spite of your opinion of him or of his behavior. If he leaves, or if the Holy Spirit prompts you to leave then you will have a different future to look forward to at that time.

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