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Old 24th December 2004, 03:07 AM   #55
Kelly J
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Re: masturbation, porn and marriage

Lovey wrote:

>>>>"The married porn user walks a fine line between masturbation and sex with his wife. " What do you mean by that? That made no sense to me. I don't understand. Can you expand on this? Thanks!>>>>>>

From reading your posts I gather you don't understand what I and others here have been talking about because it has not (yet?) happened to you. Consider yourself lucky. You also sound young (I may be wrong) so I take it you haven't been married that long.

In most circumstances the husband starts prefering the porn years into the marriage, usually about the time the children are in their teen years or older. Younger men can and do use porn, some at the expense of their wive's satisfaction, but it is far more common in men over 40. This is when they start to walk that fine line I was talking about.

The biggest problem in younger men who use porn, especially those who are heavy porn users and have been since puberty, is that some have difficulty getting aroused enough by sex with a real person because that person usually doesn't match the porn fantasies they have become used to. These cases however are rare but sex therapists are seeing an increase in erectile difficulties and orgasm difficulties in heavy porn users of all ages when they try to have sex with a partner.
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