Re: help please
It is not good Lizzy and it is a concern yes. I really feel for you. It is a form of unfaithfulness which can lead to adultery. These things have to be watched as they can grow left to themselves. You needed to confront it as you have done but one can surmise that it is going underground and has not stopped. This cuts to the heart of the marriage and gradually undermines the trust in the marriage.
What to do? I know one cannot force things. My tack is that you continue to confront. This doesn't have to be militant but it must be firm. You have a battle on your hands and if you weaken and give up you can become a doormat in your own marriage. You musn't let this happen even if it gets to the point of them or me. He needs that kind of shock I think. You need more openess in your marriage it seems and need to insist on it.
I don't know about Pirbright, whatever that is, but I will look it up.
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