Thread: Need to move on
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Old 12th February 2017, 10:28 PM   #3
Raymond
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Re: Need to move on

You have been through a hard time Starmate and have been badly let down and need to recover. I remember that he was doing porn and making light of it. I expect this got worse and the mental adultery continued along with the dishonesty and lack of empathy for your situation. It sounds like basically his selfishness destroyed the marriage. The porn was probably there from the beginning I think and when you said you never felt as if you were married it is understandable as in a sense he was married to the porn and got his sex from there. I know there were other problems but these could probably have been managed if he had really decided to work on his marriage.

Part of the healing I would think is in being able to trust another man. That's if you had any desire to find the right person. Another thing would be being able to forgive him in case you are imprisoned by he situation and perhaps bitter about it.
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