Thread: Role confusion
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Old 27th May 2011, 10:48 PM   #12
1aokgal
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Re: Role confusion

Hi Chamomile...

This ladys' story seems repeated many times nowadays. Women now have financial power and good jobs and often pay the price in a relationship for that. There are men who are "floaters" who seek out such women and let them carry the burden while they poke along at jobs with no future or poor rewards but easy on them to just go along at comfortable pace.
Some men make no pretense at being a partner once they are through the door. That man can spend days on the internet, unemployed with no prospects..and little effort to change that. It is a way of life, not a happening.

A woman has to carry her own end of things and play mother to get him to apply for work or try for better. The number of women in that trap is legion until she decides now it is enough. There has to be great push to make change when just to stay in the rut is easier than to argue or insist that man needs to partner and carry some share.

It is also likely there is resentment in such an unequal union and there is little sex because a man can even the playing field with withholding. In this case the kids should be out of the house the day all the grievances can be aired and some ultimatum about future performance can be agreed upon. It is likely his last relationship was the same. This lady has be strong and if no change in the situation she should end it. It is role reversal as some men think they have earned a free ride.

Last edited by 1aokgal; 2nd June 2011 at 02:03 AM.
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