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Old 24th February 2016, 12:32 PM   #3
chosen
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Re: Advice or just letting off steam?

Cheating on your wife is wrong. It will only bring more misery and pain, quite likely for your children as well. Things kept in the darkness usually come to the light, and believe me your children will react very badly to you if they find out.
You need to make it very clear to your wife how desperately unhappy you are, that you cant go on like this in the marriage, and that things must change or its over. If it must end then it must end, but staying and cheating at the same time is not the answer. MY dad did that and believe me, I never saw him in the same way again. he had lied and deceived us all, and I wouldnt trust him after that.

Leaving once the children leave wont make it any easier on them, they will still be deeply hurt, and these days children rarely leave home till their later 20's or early 30's because of such high housing costs, so how long will you wait?

Also you seem fixated on oral sex, many couples dont have oral sex, I think its the porn industry that has turned that into such an obsession with some men. Do you look at porn? if you do then stop, its very damaging both for yourself and the marriage. Maybe she got so fed up with you pressuring her to do things in sex that she felt really uncomfortable about, and even hated, that she has cut the sex off completely.

Last edited by chosen; 24th February 2016 at 10:24 PM.
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