Thread: How to move on
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Old 22nd May 2011, 11:19 AM   #2
Helen_uk
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Re: How to move on

Hi Lynn

I'm so sorry to hear of the problems you have , which must seem like an ongoing nightmare.

Sometimes when we love someone we have to show tough love . Alcoholics by their very nature are deceitful people. My step mother was an alcoholic and she'd go to extremes to get her fix.

Promises work both ways, he promised you he'd stop drinking and stop cheating.... You shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to put your own peace of mind first.

Loving someone doesn't stop because of the way they behave , but you can choose not to keep condoning his choices. If you're in the UK ( not sure if the US also have one ) have you tried contacting Al-anon ?

If it's cheating rather than alcohol that's driving this wedge between you then that also is something you don't have to live with . But you have to make that decision to take a stand and mean it . If you keep giving him " one last chance " then where is the deterrent.... ?
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