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Old 21st March 2012, 09:54 AM   #28
Raymond
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Re: brink of seperation

Good to here you are now getting a bit of good sleep Jan and glad to hear he is helping a little. You have to accept his limitations as he will be made differently to you.

I feel he is going through an adjustment time. He would have had expectations in marriage and it's not turning out that way quite. That's quite normal but you can still have a good marriage and relate to each other in truth as things are now. Things will get a lot better now that you are working at it. Let him go out a little and do what he needs to do. He is under pressure at work it seems. You don't want a depressed husband. God has a plan for both of you.

Have you got the church elders to pray for your sickness? Jesus is still the healer. Or get hubby to pray for you. Of course you can believe for yourself as well. God is concerned about these things.

I would take the counselling and use the positives there are. If you feel some of it is negative then you don't have to imbibe it. She is giving her time freely and concentrating on your marriage which is not a bad thing.

Try and speak good things into your marriage when you get opportunities. Try and find out what his love language is. Be it words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, touch or acts of service. Someone has to start somewhere to bring the love back.
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