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Old 24th August 2004, 10:29 AM   #15
Ilah
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Re: masturbation, porn and marriage

I am reading a lot about this subject and I hear so many of the same excuses as to why men toss off to porn. They're visual creatures, not wired for monogamy etc, etc.
It appears to me that women are being conditioned into accepting men going off and using porn whilst their own instincts, and I do mean instincts and not feelings are being bulldozed. There is a very good reason why women feel insecure and threatened by porn because "in the wild", which men so often refer to as their justification for porn, shows interest in another woman it's an immediate threat to her and her offsprings survival. That to me is one hell of a big instinct to suppress and the vast majority of women simply cannot do that.

Also the insinuation that women are wired for monogamy and are not visual creatures is simply not true, but we are being forced into the belief that we are. In fact women are far more likely to go of and have affairs than men (as stated by Discovery Channel) and Brad Pitt isn't just a pin up by gay men is he? Porn is not a natural state of affairs at all the vast majority of people have only had access to it in the last 10 years and I am not aware of any video recorder that dates back thousands of years ago. Also the cases of severe pre and post natal depression has gone up dramatically in those last 10 years because pregnant women all over the place are thrown over for porn. To impose that kind of stress on pregnant women should be criminal and it is having serious detrimental effect on them and the subsequent child. This I speak from personal experience.

For me I refused to even be remotely bothered by it. I refused to accept in the house under any circumstances and he knows the score. It took quite a fight to permantly get it out and being all talky and trying to reason simply didn't work. No I smashed up all the videos in a rage in front of him, threw a computer out of a window (I was busy and didn't want to waste time searching and deleting the stuff) and spent a week in a 5 star hotel all expenses paid by him. But still no matter what damage I did to the videos, computer and bank account would ever be close to the damage that was done to me. There's never been a problem since and that was over a year ago now so and yes given enough persuasion they can think that it just isn't worth it.

There is no woman on this planet who's boyfriend/husband indulges solo in porn is happy about it . Usually if are OK with it they will also say, "Oh I don't mind it stops him from having affairs".

Ilah
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