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Old 2nd January 2017, 03:53 PM   #1
John Mark
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Where did the sex go ?

I love my wife dearly, she is a wonderful woman, full of kindness and a cheeky fun spirit. She is everything you would want in a wife.

All that said, she has turned her back on sex (or so it feels), we have discussed this many times but the conversation never seems to lead to a change in attitude. We have a teenage son who still lives at home. She constantly tells me how tired she is, and to back that up she does sleep alot.

I, on the other hand do not, and often find myself laying in bed wide awake at 5-6am. I usually get bored and get up within an hour or so of awakening, i would not dare to wake my wife, she will sleep until 10am at least.

We have not had sex since July 2016, we are now in Jan 2017. this is not unusual for us, i am lucky if we have sex 3-4 times a year. Last year it was twice.

I am just lost and confused and not really sure where the problem lay anymore, i sometimes feel that it is me and now question my performance and that i am not good enough and clearly do not do it for her, so now am scared to even try as i do not want her to have obligatory sex, nothing would offend me more. Then other times i feel that she just is not interested regardless of what my performance would be.

Does anyone else have these conflicting thoughts ?
Does anyone else have the same issues ?

I love my wife, i really truly do, but i am at my wits end and need some advice and how to tackle this and what my next steps should be.
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