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Old 17th July 2017, 12:43 AM   #4
TJW
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Re: Feeling depressed

I agree with seeing your GP about it.

Dr. Phil McGraw says that we all have a "personal truth" which gets lived out in our lives. It is quite easy for us to know our own personal truth. It is contained in what we say to ourselves when there is no "social mask" being worn.

The advice you received that your molestation "happened years ago" and "just get over it" was, sadly, very, very poor advice. You didn't say that anyone applied this advice to your being kidnapped and to your father's suicide, but it is also very, very poor advice regarding those things as well.

It is said that "time heals all wounds". This is absolute malarkey. The fact is, time does not heal anything. Only "the work" does.

There are also those who will say that "forgiving" is the key. That is also not true, as you have stated yourself, you can "forgive" but you cannot "forget". None of us can forget anything. We have to learn to deal with our memories and "channel" them into productive thought and reasoning.

It's quite easy for us to blame ourselves for a partner's adultery. However, this has no basis in fact or truth. The fact and the truth is, that it was our partner's choice to commit adultery and had absolutely nothing to do with us.


I think you should take the chance to seek professional talk therapy with these issues. Fixing the "personal truth" need not take a long period of sessions. A good, qualified, knowledgeable counselor will "zero in". Dr. McGraw calls these "defining moments" when our "personal truth" gets laid out by ourselves for ourselves.

If you live to be of average age, you have 34 more years to spend here before you pass into eternity. It is clearly "worth it" to fix your "personal truth".
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