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Old 7th June 2013, 09:01 PM   #2
Forever
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Re: Porn addiction - Leave him?

Looks like most of the helping hands here are away which is unusual.

I live with a 60 year old husband who says he loves me and treats me good...but is still caught up in lust for other women and has had affairs (and worse) over the years. If he (and yours) fail to have a true Spiritual "overhaul" this will not change...EVER. You will find yourself with a baby on the hip and facing a divorce...it is just the nature of this beast. A marriage that has no trust CANNOT survive...but it can at least give you some time to position yourself to leave if you play your cards right. I am not my husband's "type" either, although I am considered beautiful especially for my age...I look barely forty although I am pushing sixty and am slender but not super skinny. But I am just not good enough for him...I do not fit his "profile" (he prefers half his age, much larger breast, olive or tanned skin, VERY skinny with bony knees, and willing to do anal sex). His ex wife had ALL these attributes and he still cheated on her...go figure...apparently, variety is important to him also, and porn/lust for other women is his way to build up his libido rather than tapping into love, because there isn't any...not really. I am just a hole that he uses when he is ready to release...thank God it is "only" twice a month. The axe is already at the base of the tree...it is just a matter of time.

I have no problem with checking his history or checking anything else that I find suspicious...although now days I do not bother (what for ?...I know what I will find and choose to spare myself the emotional melt down)...and I use to check it right out in the open just the same as he does anything he does not like when he has an issue about me. If he does not like it and decides to "jump ship" because his actions cause me that much concern that I went snooping, then good riddance sooner rather than later. If he had nothing to hide...if he had integtrity and faithfulness, he would not mind sharing his thoughts, internet/phone activity or answering questions honestly and w/o anger or rebuke.

Hope that helps.

Last edited by Forever; 7th June 2013 at 09:25 PM.
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