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Old 8th September 2009, 12:59 PM   #3
Raymond
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Re: Desperately seeking guidance

Yes it may well be wrapped up in the bereavement. It has to have a time limit eventually where you pick up and live a normal life again. Sometimes this will take an effort on his part to put it behind him. I don't know for sure whether the porn was connected to it or how long he was doing this. Could it have even started before the loss of his mother? Whatever it is a kind of mental unfaithfulness.

If he was deeply into the porn an addiction could have formed which is very difficult to break. This will certainly affect a sex life and could be the reason for the stonyness you are experiencing.

It seems obvious to me that something has not been reconciled in a healthy way whatever that is.

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